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Seven Steps for Dealing with Pornography Addiction

(from the perspective of a young heterosexual male)

by Lance, AntiPornography.org Supporter and Contributer

Posted in its original form at The Floating Lion/Mi Querencia Blog

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INTRODUCTION AND MY STORY:

(Note: The Seven Steps follow this section)

I was going through a difficult time in my life involving separation and isolation. In some ways, pornography was a way out for me and prevented me from doing potentially self-destructive things. However, porn became a refuge for me, an all-too-frequent “backup” the the point I had to stop and re-evaluate my life. I had advanced in many ways, but one of the nagging issues in my life was the familiarity with pornographic material and it stayed with me for a long time.

I’ve managed to stop watching, and I thought I’d share my guiding thoughts which have successfully gotten me off porn thus far. I read many different websites on how to stop watching porn. None of them worked for me. It was all “easier said than done.”

It’s more than not “just watching,” rather, it’s about not really feeling the need to look at it. While I still think about sex as much as before (which is many times a day), I don’t feel the “need” to run to my laptop and start loading up 5 different tabs at once.  

*It’s been a month so far and I haven’t laid eyes on a single porn site…and I feel much stronger spiritually and happier with myself.

A little bit about me: I’m a guy, straight, mid-twenties, not religious, I like to have a good time. I love meeting people and I love talking with women. I exercise regularly. I eat healthy. I love to go to the movies. I love to hike, run. If you met me, you probably would find I am a very soft-spoken, gregarious and pleasant young man. I don’t seem like the “type” who would get off on hardcore porn like gangbangs.

I couldn’t control myself. The stress and frustration in my private life would drive me to sometimes watch multiple times a day. I had a mental list of all my favorite porn performers, I had videos saved.  I was surfing porn “tube sites” online regularly. I would sometimes ask myself: “Why do I keep going back to this?”  The more I watched, the more I wanted. I started having needs I never had before.  It wasn’t normal. It wasn’t healthy. I hated myself. I tried to quit. I tried telling myself: “I’ll never look at this again. It’s morally degrading.”  But I would relapse with a vengeance.

*Every girl I met, I thought of in a sexual way and imagined her doing the sort of things that I had seen women do in the porn that I watched. 

Then things started changing. The videos were becoming more disturbing and abusive.  I felt sad…I felt sick.

I began thinking to myself: “I want to watch porn so I can be aroused. I want to be aroused because I want to ejaculate while I watch a porn actress do hardcore sex acts in a porn scene. So why do I feel I HAVE TO watch such a graphic video?

*I have known plenty of women in my life. I have had sex many times.  Why not think about any of those women?  So I shut off the computer, closed my eyes, thought of a woman I found attractive, and pleasured myself to climax. After ejaculation, it occurred to me: this feeling of lust is entirely temporary…so treat it as such. Don’t give it so much attention by feeling that you NEED to load some hardcore porn.

A wise man told me: Lust is like a storm.  When the storm comes, you observe it while taking shelter. You don’t stand outside and stare at it otherwise it will take you away. You watch it come and you watch it go.  That is the same with lust.  Observe it as it appears. Do what you have to do, but don’t get tangled in it.

*There are still some days I want to load up the sites with all of the hardcore porn scenes that really aroused me in the past. I could do it right now, within a matter of seconds. But I think about what’s worked for me (described below), and I just don’t feel the need.

It’s definitely not an easy habit to kick and because of society jamming sexualized and pornified women in our face (billboards, TV, internet), but refusing to adequately address it (it’s all over the place!), you’re pretty much stuck on your own dealing with this. I’ve found distancing yourself from porn only works if you do it gradually, so here are my guiding thoughts, and maybe it can help those who are really trying to stop. 

 

THE SEVEN STEPS 

 

(1)  BEGIN SCALING BACK THE QUANTITY OF VIDEOS YOU WATCH AND SET A TIME LIMIT TO YOUR VIEWING

Part of the problem with the widespread availability of porn is the sheer quantity available.  Years ago, you were lucky to view pictures. Today, however, full-length films are available on the internet.  So instead of having 10 “favorite” videos saved, cut down to 5.  Try not to have multiple tabs consisting of different sites on at the same time.  Just have one tab open and keep your viewing of different videos to the single digits. Start to make a conscious effort to choose the least hardcore and least degrading porn available that will work for you.

Next, set a time limit to viewing. For me, I set a time limit and said “I won’t spend more than 15 minutes today surfing,” and I stuck by that time limit. With all the YouTube-type sites out there, you can literally spend hours looking through all videos imaginable and not even be conscious of the time. Set your time limit and then call it a day. When you think about it, 15 minutes is a very small portion of the day. If you can watch just once a day, that leaves the entire day open for you to do more fulfilling things. Start cutting down with the viewing time more and more.  15 minutes becomes 10 minutes, then 7 minutes.  But do it at a pace that works for you, and please, be consistent (try not to “treat” yourself in that you spend a week watching 10 minutes, you then decide to “just once” spend an hour.)

(2) SET A DAILY GOAL AND TELL YOURSELF “I WILL NOT WATCH PORN TODAY.” 

Once the frequency and time spent viewing pornographic material lessens, then the fog clears and you can begin the new journey in front of you to not view pornographic material at all.

At first, I repeatedly told myself “I will never watch porn again in my life” but I found I would just relapse. If you’re watching porn all the time and are pretty much addicted (like I was), you telling yourself to never watch porn again for the rest of your life will not help you (never say never!). It will feel like you have to climb Mount Everest and it won’t be doable. Rather, just tell yourself that you’ll try not to watch it today and take it day by day.  The mind and the spirit want to be free, and when you say “never do this” then you’re restricting the natural flow of things.

Training your mind to take life part by part rather in one fell swoop can make the goal attainable. For example, rather than tell yourself-”I have to run 10 miles”, you set checkpoints-”I have to pass mile 1 now. Then mile 2…etc” or at work, your boss gives you a in-depth assignment-break it down into bite-sized tasks and work at completing each one 100%.

Life is a marathon and many of the trials an tribulations we get through in life are like long distance runs, so set incremental goals, work at it every day, sharpen and chisel away at those pearls, which are your mind and soul, and we can make it together. At the start of every yoga class, we all set an intention for that day-”Today I will give only kindness to others.” Your intention can simply be “today I will stay away from porn.” That leads to point (3) below:

(3) FIND HOBBIES AND THINGS THAT INTEREST YOU ASAP!!

For me it was guitar, yoga, and music. Instead of typing in a porn site, go to youtube and just type in “meditation music.” Listening to this kind of music put me in a very somber and reflective mood. There are many other things to think about in the world than uploading the newest video of a porn star.

Go for a walk, pay attention to nature. If it’s windy, feel the wind on your face, hear the wind as it brushes through the leaves of trees. Listen to the rain, feel the heat of the sun, watch the snow as it falls.  There is a natural, cosmic flow with Nature we are oftentimes unaware of. Pay attention to your surroundings. Be present now in the moment.

(4) ASK YOURSELF THE DIFFICULT PERSONAL QUESTION AND REALLY THINK…

…“Exactly why do I want to sit here, load a porn that hardcore porn video?”  I know it sounds pointless, but really ask why do you need to release? Do you like the buildup?

(5) WRITE DOWN YOUR URGES, YOUR THOUGHTS… WATCH THEM APPEAR ON A PIECE OF PAPER.

When you find the right relaxing music and you feel the urge, before you run to the laptop, grab a pen and a piece of paper and just start writing. Write about what you want to watch. Write about what you’re thinking about. Write about WHY you want to watch your favorite porn vid. You may not be aware, but you are actually re-directing that raw sexual energy to introspection, something many people fail to do their entire lives. You are essentially having a dialogue with yourself, the toughest dialogue of all, and at the end of the day, isn’t that what we are all doing?  Reflecting on our good/bad day? Thinking about people who made us happy/angry?  This is no different. You’re not suppressing your urges, but rather you are identifying and questioning that raw energy.

(6) BREATHE

Take deep breaths in through your nose, hold it, and slowly exhale. Start paying attention to your urges through your breathing. Identify the lust you feel. the anger you feel. the sadness you feel.

(7) IF YOU FEEL THE URGE, DO WHAT YOU LIKELY DID WHEN YOU FIRST MASTURBATED — JUST CLOSE YOUR EYES AND FANTASIZE.

If you just feel the urge (the testosterone can almost be like an animal), then try this: get away from the computer, go to your bed and masturbate. Close your eyes and think . At first, you will probably see pornographic images in your head, as I did (and occasionally, still do). But then slowly try and control those thoughts and begin thinking about whoever you want to think about having sex with. Again, at first, you will probably just see that person doing things you’ve seen in pornographic images, but gradually try and view the sexual fantasy with that person in a non-degrading way and as an equal — not just as someone who is there to be used or to service you sexually, and let the fantasy grow.

Truthfully, if I have to take care of my sexual urges this way, I still face the challenge of trying to discipline my mind and not see many of the porn images I had seen so many times before.  Try and think of warmth, tenderness with the other person…that kind of pleasure that comes from sex.  Sexual arousal is perfectly normal (at least to me), and we all have sexual urges. The issue, I believe, turns on how you express it. Plus stimulation without porn requires you to really be creative and create your own fantasy, to control your thoughts and to create that pleasurable mental experience which eventually manifests itself to the physical pleasure.

Otherwise, by getting aroused by watching porn, you are training yourself to react like a machine, processing the images, and climaxing based on those images.

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Based on my experience, these steps are helping me. Applying them has reduced my “need” to frantically look at porn, and has overall made me more reflective of everything in life. I’m more interested in observing nature (beaches, trees, feeling the wind), and I am more interested in obtaining the intimate company of a woman by engaging in dialogues, going on walks, rather than just going horizontal with her.

If you can’t think of anyone to fantasize about, then get away from the computer screen and go meet people. Technology has helped us advance, but in many ways, we have become more isolated and distant from each other. Friendship is not valued much in the modern age, so it can be difficult to “meet” a significant other through a friend. But just try and get involved in the world so you can meet people. Sex will come naturally if both people are on the same page. Bottom line: there is much more to life than sex (though it’s hard to believe, even for me, given the “pornified” society we live in.)

Porn can take away so much valuable time when you can be outdoors, playing an instrument, or doing something that actually makes you a better person. If you’re married or in a relationship, porn might cripple your ability to sexually communicate with your partner. *(As it sort of did with me.)

This entire process is what is known in yoga as “unlearning.” You have a habit, a way of thinking, a way of living that you want to fundamentally change. You have to pretty much “unlearn” it. The only way to “unlearn” is to really question what it is you’re doing, how it affects you BOTH short term and in the long-run, and how it affects OTHERS around you. (For example your significant other.)

Plus the problem with porn is that the more you watch it, the more you expect people to do the crazy things that you see on the screen. Porn these days is getting really rough, and if you watch it too much and then happen to meet a girl and you start hurting her without even knowing it, that’s bona fide evidence you’ve taken your use of porn too far. You get desensitized to the actual pain that the women are experiencing on the screen, and next thing you know, you’re making your date/wife/girlfriend cry because you tried to act out some of the degrading and hurtful sexual acts that you've seen in porn, viewing her as a warped illusory porn fantasy, rather than a real human being who feels, laughs, and cries just like you.

I’m not coming from a moral angle (for example “Porn is the devil”), because while I feel very sorry for everyone involved in that business, that reason was not alone to get me to stop using porn. *(I always felt the same argument can be made about the clothes you and I wear - some kid in India or China was probably raped, beaten and forced to sew that shirt we take for granted, but what can we do?  Gandhi made his own clothes, but until we reach that platform he was in, we’re all “partaking” in the greedy societal abuse of others.)

Nevertheless, for a moment, just think about it: what if you loaded up that video and you knew the person in it? Ex. a male or female relative you haven’t heard from in years and you see him/her in that video? True-the industry is filled with “consenting-age” adults who choose to do the acts you see and they get paid lots of money for it, but still, It would hit home a lot more if you knew that person and you might not get so quickly aroused. Bottom line is-pornography and “quick fixes” drive our society, people are hurting for money now, so in some ways, many men and women are not too far from “auditioning” for the next low budget “photo shoot” in LA or NY.

To bring it all togo find your way through it. So seriously think about what is best for you in the long run, ether, porn viewing is a very private and personal addiction, and while you can reach out for help, at the end of the day you’re on your own in front of your computer. J. Krishnamurthi, a wise man who was well ahead of his years, once said “Truth is a pathless land.”  I couldn’t agree more; it’s a jungle and you need tand also the people around you. (I.e. your current or potential girlfriend or wife). Continuously watching porn can definitely ruin your life. Somebody on another site said it perfectly — it’s like continuously eating McDonalds every day. In the long run, porn viewing will inhibit your spiritual growth.

So, if anybody is struggling with this addiction, I urge you to PLEyouASE post your feelings and concerns in the below comments section. Be as open as you want and we will all try to work together in helping each one of us become happier and more spiritually fulfilled beings in the future.

NAMASTE

~~ Lance

P.S. I will check this page regularly and will respond to all sincere comments within a couple of days of when they are posted. So if you post a comment below please check back, and if you don't see a response on your first return visit please come back again a day or two later and I will have responded by then. Thanks.

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Thank you for your understanding, and best wishes to you for finding and successfully applying the resources that are right for you to overcome your pornography addiction and live a happy, healthy, authentic and fulfilling porn-free life! :-)

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FEMINIST, WOMEN & GIRLS ADVOCATE ORGANIZATIONS & GROUPS, ETC:

*Equality Now    *The F-Word    *Off Our Backs     *Women for Women International

     *Global Fund for Women  *London Feminist Network  *Feminist.com

*The National Organization for Women (NOW)    Feminist Majority Foundation  (FMF)

*Feminist Campus   Ms. Magazine  *Safe World 4 Women   *Women's Law Society

*WomensLaw.org   *U.S. Department of State's Office of Global Women's Issues  

*SIGI.org  *GlobalSister.org  FeministGifts.com  *The Date Safe Project  *VAWNet  

*No Statute of Limitations   *RAINN (Rape, Abuse and Incest National Network) 

*The National Domestic Violence Hotline  *Guard Yourself Now  *UK Feminista

Chicago Foundation for Women    *The Women's Media Center  The F-Files

*Free Girl Foundation  *Girls Fight Back   *The Girl Effect   *Girls for Gender Equity   

*Girl Fest Hawaii   *Rain & Thunder    Daughters of the Sun - A Youth Leader Project

*Biting Beaver  *No Excuses / No Mercy   *RadFem Hub
 
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MEN AGAINST SEXISM, VIOLENCE, SEXUAL EXPLOITATION  & ABUSE, ETC.

NOMAS (National Organization of Men Against Sexism )    *Men Can Stop Rape     *My Strength Campaign  

*Men Stopping Violence      *A Call to Men UK       *The White Ribbon Campaign (CA)  

  *Reclaiming Sex From XXX       *Byron Hurt       Jackson Katz   

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MEDIA, FREE SPEECH, & OTHER ORGANIZATIONS, GROUPS & SITES:

 *Media Education Foundation Women's Institute for Freedom of the Press

Miboda Agency

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MESSAGE BOARDS AND FORUMS FOR HELP, INFORMATION & SUPPORT:

There are MANY anti-porn groups and pages at Facebook.
 
Just search GROUPS and PAGES for "anti-porn," "antiporn," "anti-pornography" & "antipornography" and similar terms.
 
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FAMILY, CHILDREN, MEN & ADDICTION FOCUSED RESOURCES:   

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ANTI-PORNOGRAPHY ORGANIZATIONS, GROUPS, AND WEBSITES: 

*National Center on Sexual Exploitation      *Pornography Harms      *Enough Is Enough      ProtectKids.com     

*Pornversations - College tour of an ex porn performer and an ex porn addict    Protect Young Minds

 National Law Center  for Children and Families    *Traffic Control, the Movie     Maryland Coalition Against Pornography   

It's Time We Talked      Utah Coalition Against Pornography       BraveHearts       Diamond Heart Foundation

Report Online Child Pornography/Exploitation at CyberTipLine.com or 1-800-843-5678

*Darkness 2 Light    *XXX Church    Department of Justice  ThePornTalk.com  

Social Costs of PornographyConference Videos   Papers   Report of Findings

*Safe Eyes (InternetSafety.com)  *Convenant Eyes   Internet Filter Review     *Women for Decency     AntiChildPorn.org

Say No to Pornography Pakistan - Let's Wage a War Against Pornography Blogspot

Canadians Addressing Sexual Exploitation  (C.A.S.E.) (Canada)

CANADA - List of other anti-pornography and related Canadian organizations

(Scroll down on above link to get to the list of organizations)

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ANTI-PORNOGRAPHY ACTIVIST INDIVIDUALS, AUTHORS, AND THERAPISTS:  

*Pat Trueman  (Founder of Pornography Harms) Pamela Paul  (Author of "Pornified")

Dr. Jill C. Manning (Author:"What's the Big Deal about Pornography? A Guide for the Internet Generation")

Dr. Judith Reisman   *Dr. Robi Sonderegger

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ANTI-PROSTITUTION/TRAFFICKING/SEXUAL EXPLOITATION/ABUSE SITES, ETC:  

*Shared Hope International     Free the Slaves

*IJM Institute (International Justice Mission)   *Global Centurion   *Live2free

*ECPAT - USA (End Child Prostitution & Trafficking)  *Beyond Borders (ECPATCanada)

*T-Stop (Texas Sex Trafficking Obliteration Project)   *Love146 NYC Task Force

*End Slavery NT (End Slavery in Tennessee and Beyond)   *Chab Dai Coalition

*Justice and Care (South Asia)  *Rock Against Slavery   End Demand

Overexposed, the Movie   Call and Response, the Movie    *Nowhere2Hide

CASEY (Community Against Sexual Exploitation of Youth. Canada)   

 
 

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OTHER RELATED ORGANIZATIONS, GROUPS, WEBSITES & CAUSES:

*Parents Television Council   *Web Wise Kids   *InternetSafety.com

*ClearInternational   *Cyber Safety Book  (Ken Knapton)   *Optenet PC

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PORNOGRAPHY ADDICTION AND COMPULSION HELP AND SUPPORT:  

*PornAddictionHelp YouTube Channel - AntiPornography.org project with MANY videos & resources!

*Inner Gold    *Fight the New Drug   *Compulsion Solutions   The Mindful Habit

*Porn Game Over    MeadowCrest   Your Brain on Porn    HealthySex.com (Wendy Maltz)   Reboot Nation

Sexual Recovery Institute    *Just Be Well    *No-Porn.com  No-Porn.com Message Board

*Impulse Treatment Center (Sex Addict Treatment - Don L. Matthews)   *Covenant Eyes   *Stepping Inward

*Mindful Recovery   My Porn Addiction Story - Porn Addiction Help from a Former Addict

Porn Addicts Anonymous  Porn & Relationships Q&A (By "Porn Trap's'" Wendy Maltz)  Addicted to Internet Porn

Porn Addict Hubby  (Relationship Rescue for Wives & Girlfriends of Internet Porn Addicts)

Partners of Sex Addicts Resource Center    The Society for the Advancement of Sexual Health (SASH)

Don't Reward Bad Behaviour - Guidance for Partners of Porn Addicts  Desert Solace

Petra Bueskens of PPMD Therapy (Australia)   PPMD Therapy Facebook   Guilty Pleasure

QuitPorn Group Text Hotline - "To become a member and join our group text community, start by texting QUITPORN to 23559"  Twitter: @QuitPornHotline  YouTube: QuitPornTextHotline

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LOOKING FOR A SEX OR PORN ADDICTION THERAPIST OR COUNSELOR? 

Check out this very helpful directory of over 1,000 entries in the United States!

http://www.abattleplan.com/counselors-therapists-sex-addiction-directory/

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ACCOUNTABILITY SOFTWARE:

Saavi Accountability -- The only online accountability program that works with all online addictions. It is also the only program that sends notifications instantly via text message to an accountability partner so that they can be supportive when an individual needs it the most at the point of weakness, while they are accessing the online content. The software was created by a young man (26) who overcame his addiction and is trying to help others.  

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ADDICTION MESSAGE BOARDS & DISCUSSION FORUMS FOR HELP & SUPPORT:

No-Porn.com Message Board

Porn Addict Hubby Discussion Board  (For Wives & Girlfriends of Internet Porn Addicts)

NOTE: There are MANY anti-porn and porn addiciton discussion groups and pages at Facebook.

Just search GROUPS and PAGES for "porn addiction", "pornography addiction", "sex addiction", "anti-porn," "antiporn," "anti-pornography" & "antipornography"

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For more than 50 personal stories documenting the harms of compulsive and/or excessive pornography use and/or pornography addiction please see our "Porn Harm Stories" page.  Thank you.

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NEED HELP WITH PORN ADDICTION?

CHECK OUT THE MINDFUL HABIT!

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OTHER HELPFUL FAQs & Q&As: (By other anti-pornography organizations, etc) 

*Gail Dines Q&A     *Against Pornography FAQ    Pornography FAQ - By Pro-feminist Michael Lovan

  *Shelley Lubben Q&A (Ex-Porn Star)    Prostitution FAQ at Genderberg      Fight the New Drug FAQ   

(Note: The No Porn Northampton FAQ is in the bottom half of their sidebar. In addition to the usual questions about pornography it addresses questions and concerns about activism against sexually oriented businesses such as "adult bookstores.")

AntiPornography.org's "Frequently Asked Questions & Responses to Pro-Pornography Arguments"

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Shared Hope International specifically focuses on fighting the demand for commercial sexual exploitaiton, including addressing pornography as a very significant demand factor for sex trafficking. 

Please see their excellent report on this issue:

Pornography: Creating Demand for International Sex Trafficking

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"Pornography is a marketing device for sex trafficking: It normalizes degradation and violence as acceptable and even inevitable parts of sex, and uses the bodies of real women and children as objects. The difference between pornography and erotica is clear in the roots of the words themselves -- porne means females slaves, eros means love -- so pornography, like rape, is about violence and domination, not sex. Millions of lives depend on our ability to separate pornography from erotica, and to disentangle violence from sexuality."

Gloria Steinem, 2006

For information about Gloria Steinem's important work of fighting against the harms of pornography, sex trafficking and other forms of sexual exploitation and abuse, including videos and an audio interview, please see our page on Gloria Steinem. Click here.

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For more information on how pornography fuels prostitution and sex trafficking, please see our page on Pornography and Trafficking.  Click here.  Thank you!

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Please remember that it is not up to AntiPornography.org, the other organizations listed on this page, the government, or "someone else" to do the entire job of fighting against the devastating harms of pornography, prostitution, trafficking, and other forms of sexual exploitation or abuse. It is an enormous job and the responsibility lies with each and every one of us to do our part as part of the bigger team of those who are choosing to be part of the solution of creating a more just and humane world for everyone, rather than be part of the problem.

So thank you in advance for whatever you are able to contribute to the cause, whether in the form of a tax-deductible donation or your actions. What you do does matter, so for the sake of all those across the world who are being exploited and abused, and for the sake of the future of humanity, please do what you can to create a more compassionate and safer society for all.

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